Let’s find out with you how we can avoid that incredibly destructive fear of public speaking. What we need to do, understand, or apply in order to minimize the stupor in which we sometimes fall. And we also need to know that we can’t completely eliminate fear, but we can definitely reduce it.
So, the seven obligatory points of a good public speaking:
- We need to have a high (adequate) self-esteem! We go out, we are evaluated. Let them evaluate us however and however they want. How they evaluate us is none of our business! We know our worth, we do not depend on public opinion, we are stable. This point is the most important and probably the most difficult.
- We need to have confidence in ourselves. Self-esteem breeds confidence, determination and adequacy appear. Confidence comes with experience and development of practical skills. To have practical skills we need to perform as often as possible!
- We need to perform often. Continuation of the previous point. The more often we perform, the less we are afraid! A legitimate working formula. If the first time you perform you almost unconscious, then your tenth performance may even cause you a certain pleasure! It’s always scary the first time. Experience solves everything.
- We need a good voice. A lot depends on your voice. How you’ll be appreciated and perceived, and how you’ll get the message across to your listeners. Your voice and good diction will give you confidence and reduce the adrenaline in your blood! Practice working with your voice. A good voice is half the battle!
- We need a performance plan and a rehearsal. A performance plan is like a lesson plan. We need to clearly visualize, know, and act on a pre-conceived plan. Let’s leave spontaneity and improvisation to the professionals! When we have a clear plan, we must rehearse our performance. Stand in front of a mirror, turn on a stopwatch and recorder.
- We need a sense of humor. A sense of humor is a lifeline for any critical situation! No one likes monotony, excessive seriousness and boredom. But everyone likes humor! Use your sense of humor in your speeches, and you’ll see how the audience reacts. Any joke at a speech is a great way to defuse any tense situation and reduce the level of fear! Develop a sense of humor in yourself.
- We need to look good. It seems that this point is not very important. But it only seems that way. The quality and the result of your performance directly depends on how you look! And it also affects your self-esteem, your confidence, and the perception of your audience. In you and your clothes should not be any flaws and “shoals”. Clean, neat, with a “needle”! And also the way you’re dressed plays an important role.